When the sons of
Zebedee were striving for positions of honor with Jesus, the
Lord used the opportunity to teach a critical lesson about
leadership. He said we should not be like the rulers of the
Gentiles, who lord it over others. "Instead, whoever wants to
become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants
to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not
come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a
ransom for many" (Matthew 20:26-28). Nobody is lower in position
than a servant or a slave. So how does this apply to being the
head of the home? It doesn't take away position, but it does
describe responsibility. Every husband is subject to the needs
of his wife and children, as the provider and the protector.
To be submissive to a leader who seems unable or unwilling
to lead creates a great deal of anxiety for anyone, male or
female. Being the head of the home is not a right to be
demanded, it is an awesome responsibility.
Being the head of the home is not a right to
be demanded, it is an awesome responsibility. Husbands will have
to stand before God one day and give an account for what has
been entrusted to them.
For a marriage to be successful, a man must
leave those who were closest to him and cleave to his wife.
1. Headship / Covering / Leadership / Priest
/Authority delegated by God - Eph 5:23-24
Set aside his own
wisdom in order to use God's wisdom
Teach his wife to be
submitted in her actions through Gods Word, and the choices she makes
responsibility and right to instruct and correct her as a God
husband simply cannot meet all of his wife's needs. Only Christ
can meet every essential need. That is why every husband should
be the spiritual leader, and take whatever steps are necessary
to ensure that Christ is the center of his life, his marriage
and his family.
2. Oneness - Gen 2:24, 1 Corinthians 7:2-5;
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh
Husbands priorities - God - Wife - children - then ministry or
Enjoy and Rejoice with his wife's body - Proverb
Protect them both from sexual temptations
Faithfulness to the wife.
Righteousness guards him whose way
is blameless, But wickedness overthrows the sinner. Proverbs
A good marriage is the union of two
3. Love her with agape Love (self
sacrificing)- Eph 5:25-33
Love your wife is a commandment of
Love is a verb. It is an action,
not a feeling it is something you choose to do.
Help her grow
and mature in her walk with the Lord
Husband as the priest of
the home teach her His Word
be bitter towards her, forgive her - Col 3:19
Motivate her to
become more godly and encourage her, praise her
conversation with her about issues before they can become large
Do not deprive one another - 1 Corinthians 7:5
God's instructions are so clear, husbands love your wife -Eph
Just as Jesus loves you, and just as Jesus loves
4. Honor - Give honor to her - 1 Pet 3:7
Respect her as a gift and a treasure from God
Use good words
towards her in agreement with the Bible
Ask for her opinions,
ideas and her thoughts.
1 Corinthians 11:7 tells us the woman
is the glory of the man. The word glory means reflection.
5. Provide for her and your children
(financially, emotionally, spiritually)
Be the priest within
your home - 1 Tim 5:8
Be responsible for her and the children
Know that what she wants is not always what she needs
whatever is needed for her spiritual growth.
Every husband is
subject to the needs of his wife and children, as the provider
and the protector.
The mystery of marriage is that Jesus wants
to be one with you, He loves you and wants to you to love Him.
How? marriage will teach you, for it is an illustration of what
you should be doing with the Lord in the Spirit.
A marriage to be successful, a man must leave those who
were closest to him and cleave to his wife.