A painful marriage always sends the faithful spouse to prayer and seek His guidance. And prayer, sometimes with fasting, leads to fresh power. Prayer leads to God's plan of action. The spouse who is trying, who is praying and working on the marriage, can make an appeal to the one who is not. Jesus taught an important principle about losing to win. "For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it" (Luke 9:24). This principle applies in a hurting marriage. The person who loses life by following Jesus' teaching and example in a troubled marriage wins real life in Christ.

The world system says, "Don't put up with that garbage. You have rights, too. I know this single person who is really lonely. Let me introduce you." Your friends will say, "Get out. Haven't you had enough?

Even good marriages are sometimes marred by adultery. Human weakness and moral decline make many spouses vulnerable targets for the evil adversary.

"Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Col. 3:13). Forgiving others is not a suggestion, it's a command. The amazing miracle of forgiving others is that it stops our pain. When we release our offenses, they quit hurting us. If you want to forgive you look to the Cross to grasp how the Lord Jesus forgave you.

Every wife or husbands would love to have the perfect husband or wife, an impossible goal. All husbands and wife are less than perfect. The only successful method for creating an ideal spouse is to become one yourself.

What you need to do when your marriage is in trouble?
When your marriage is in trouble, when you are the only one who will try, wear the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-20). Take your stand against the devil's schemes to destroy your marriage. Put on the belt of truth and make honesty and integrity your way of life. Never tell lies. Wear the breastplate of righteousness, receiving Christ's righteousness and living in right relationship with God and, as much as possible, with your spouse.

Lift the shield of faith, which stops the enemy's surprise attacks. Put on the helmet of salvation, the full deliverance from sin and from lasting damage to your mind. Grasp the sword of the Spirit, the spoken Word of God that gives you just the right words at the time you most need them. Buckle on the boots of readiness, always ready to move into spiritual battle with the gospel of peace. Let peace in your marriage be the good news of Christ you bring. Let the peace flow from your forgiveness, your repentance, your identity in Christ and your freedom. Then pray always, in every way the Holy Spirit leads. You can achieve your goal to become a godly man or a godly woman.

Marriage was not your idea but was God’s idea
So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Gen 1:27-28 Matt 19:6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

Marriage is exclusive relationship
And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? Matt 19:4-5

Marriage is a purposeful relationship
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Gen 2:18