How a Marriage dies
(By Alexander Thomas)

One of the reason why a marriage die is fraud. Some lovers pursue a partner primarily for security. Then, once a spouse is in hand, they turn their attention to more materialistic and vocational matters. Basically, this person marries under false pretenses. This person presents a different person before the marriage and after the marriage. The truthful lip shall be established forever, But a lying tongue is but for a moment. Proverbs 12:19 (NKJV) 

So what is the answer for this problem: be honest and open.

Another reason for marriage failure is power struggle. If one tries to dominate or control the other, resentment will rise. Whether itís controlling the children, dominate the sexual relationship, dictating the finances, or ruling over faith issues, this destructive behavior can transform affection to aversion. There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death. Proverbs 16:25 (NKJV)

The answer to this problem is to be meek and humble.

Sex outside the marriage
One of the primary reason behind the marriage failure is sex outside the marriage. Sex outside the marriage is forbidden because it is counter-productive to the sanctifying process. We are to abstain from sexual immorality because that is not the means by which we should seek a life partner. Outward appearance and sexual appeal may be what attracts us to each other, but neither has any power to sustain the relationship. That kind of attraction is like perfume. Your senses will smell it when you are putting it on, but within minutes you will not be aware of the scent. Righteousness guards him whose way is blameless, But wickedness overthrows the sinner. Proverbs 13:6 (NKJV)

Sexual bondage destroys many marriages, and the origin of the problem can usually be traced to pornography, promiscuity, incest and rape before marriage.

The answer to this problem is guard your marriage in holiness
A good marriage is the union of two forgivers. Love knows no limit to its endurance no end to its trust, love still stands when all else has fallen. 

Another reason for marriage failure is Abuse. Verbal, physical, and psychological abuse are incredibly destructive. This occurs when a spouse consistently makes remarks that communicate that his or her mate is inferior in performance, appearance or abilities. He who mocks the poor reproaches his Maker; He who is glad at calamity will not go unpunished. Proverbs 17:5 (NKJV)

The answer to this situation is to be respectful each other. (Please read Ephesians 5:21)

Another primary reason for the marriage failure is competition between husband and wife. If the marriage becomes a struggle to see who can look better, bring home the most money, be the most educated, or have the most friends, then the couple is not really living with each other. They are living beside each other. They may be in the same race, but they arenít on the same team. Every time there is a winner, they will both lose. I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, Ephesians 4:1 (NKJV)

The answer to this problem is to be generous and reasonable.

The Spiritual leadership failure
Being the head of the home is not a right to be demanded, it is an awesome responsibility. Husband is the head of the home as well as he is the priest in the home. Husbands will have to stand before God one day and give an account for what has been entrusted to them.

The primary problem is a lack of spiritual leadership. Many men would rebel under the same circumstances in which many ladies find themselves. To be submissive to a leader who seems unable or unwilling to lead creates a great deal of anxiety for anyone, male or female. A husband simply cannot meet all of his wife's needs. Only Christ can meet every essential need. That is why every husband should be the spiritual leader, and take whatever steps are necessary to ensure that Christ is the center of his life, his marriage and his family.

The best way to ensure that his wife and children become all that God wants them to be is by being all that God wants him to be as a husband and a father. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV) When the sons of Zebedee were striving for positions of honor with Jesus, the Lord used the opportunity to teach an important lesson about leadership. He said we should not be like the rulers of the Gentiles, who lord it over others. "Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slaveójust as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many" (Matthew 20:26-28). Nobody is lower in position than a servant or a slave. So how does this apply to being the head of the home? It doesn't take away position, but it does describe responsibility. Every husband is subject to the needs of his wife and children, as the provider and the protector. Submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-25 (NKJV)

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