So what is the answer for this problem: be honest and open.
Power
Another reason for marriage failure is power struggle. If one
tries to dominate or control the other, resentment will rise.
Whether it’s controlling the children, dominate the sexual
relationship, dictating the finances, or ruling over faith
issues, this destructive behavior can transform affection to
aversion. There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end
is the way of death. Proverbs 16:25 (NKJV)
The answer to this problem is to be meek and humble.
Sex outside the
marriage
One of the primary reason behind the
marriage failure is sex outside the marriage. Sex outside the
marriage is forbidden because it is counter-productive to the
sanctifying process. We are to abstain from sexual immorality
because that is not the means by which we should seek a life
partner. Outward appearance and sexual appeal may be what
attracts us to each other, but neither has any power to sustain
the relationship. That kind of attraction is like perfume. Your
senses will smell it when you are putting it on, but within
minutes you will not be aware of the scent. Righteousness guards
him whose way is blameless, But wickedness overthrows the
sinner. Proverbs 13:6 (NKJV)
Sexual bondage destroys many
marriages, and the origin of the problem can usually be traced
to pornography, promiscuity, incest and rape before marriage.
The answer to this problem is guard your marriage in holiness
A good marriage is the union of two forgivers. Love knows no
limit to its endurance no end to its trust, love still stands
when all else has fallen.
Abuse
Another reason for marriage failure is Abuse. Verbal,
physical, and psychological abuse are incredibly destructive. This
occurs when a spouse consistently makes remarks that communicate
that his or her mate is inferior in performance, appearance or
abilities. He who mocks the poor reproaches his Maker; He who is
glad at calamity will not go unpunished. Proverbs 17:5 (NKJV)
The answer to this situation is to be respectful each other. (Please
read Ephesians 5:21)
Competition
Another primary reason for the marriage failure is competition
between husband and wife. If the marriage becomes a struggle to
see who can look better, bring home the most money, be the most
educated, or have the most friends, then the couple is not
really living with each other. They are living beside each
other. They may be in the same race, but they aren’t on the same
team. Every time there is a winner, they will both lose. I,
therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy
of the calling with which you were called, Ephesians 4:1 (NKJV)
The answer to this problem is to be generous and reasonable.
The Spiritual
leadership failure
Being the head of the home
is not a right to be demanded, it is an awesome responsibility.
Husband is the head of the home as well as he is the priest in
the home. Husbands will have to stand before God one day and give an
account for what has been entrusted to them.
The primary problem is a lack of spiritual
leadership. Many men would rebel under the same circumstances in
which many ladies find themselves. To be submissive to a leader
who seems unable or unwilling to lead creates a great deal of
anxiety for anyone, male or female. A husband simply cannot meet
all of his wife's needs. Only Christ can meet every essential
need. That is why every husband should be the spiritual leader,
and take whatever steps are necessary to ensure that Christ is
the center of his life, his marriage and his family.
The best
way to ensure that his wife and children become all that God
wants them to be is by being all that God wants him to be as a
husband and a father. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ
also loved the church and gave Himself for her, Ephesians 5:25
(NKJV) When the sons of Zebedee were striving for positions of
honor with Jesus, the Lord used the opportunity to teach an
important lesson about leadership. He said we should not be like
the rulers of the Gentiles, who lord it over others. "Instead,
whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant,
and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son
of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his
life as a ransom for many" (Matthew 20:26-28). Nobody is lower
in position than a servant or a slave. So how does this apply to
being the head of the home? It doesn't take away position, but
it does describe responsibility. Every husband is subject to the
needs of his wife and children, as the provider and the
protector. Submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives,
submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is
head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He
is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is
subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in
everything. Ephesians 5:21-25 (NKJV)
